tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post4404813229138655779..comments2024-03-20T14:31:49.238-07:00Comments on mole: Tired, Bone-Weary, and OldDalehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-63555814454108776552019-11-23T17:18:15.283-08:002019-11-23T17:18:15.283-08:00And like Pooh, I'm getting fatter and fatter. ...And like Pooh, I'm getting fatter and fatter. Not up to caring about it either. Zhoenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515663141425057088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-25875988124916813372019-10-21T07:11:40.886-07:002019-10-21T07:11:40.886-07:00Heh. Yeah, Murr, I'm tickled to have a sideway...Heh. Yeah, Murr, I'm tickled to have a sideways again. It's useful in daily life!Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-25661990959163960822019-10-21T07:08:37.809-07:002019-10-21T07:08:37.809-07:00Yeah, I had someone pm me wondering if I was worki...Yeah, I had someone pm me wondering if I was working my way into an eating disorder. No, I'm still smack in the "healthy weight" range for my height, and lining up the weight loss with the desire to disappear was just a literary conceit. The eating alone thing is mostly that I love the food so much, and I want to focus on it. Eating socially is just a great way to vacuum up calories without ever really tasting them.<br /><br />My goal now is to get my waist hip ratio to 0.9, and I'm very close to it. The nice thing about that goal is that if I eat so little that I start losing muscle mass, I'll move farther away from it, not closer. So the numbers should protect me. (The numbers have been my True Friend all the way through this process, however quirky and weird they are!)Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-18434064786407934832019-10-20T18:51:43.433-07:002019-10-20T18:51:43.433-07:00Rachel addressed what I have been debating about c...Rachel addressed what I have been debating about commenting on. Now that I read your words about "shrinking more," I begin to wonder how much weight you have lost beyond your original goal which was at the top of the healthy range for your height. I hope your weight has not now dropped below the normal range for your height.<br /><br />Although I could not stop eating large amounts of food and struggled with my weight for years, I then went to the other extreme after I found the key to not needing so much food and found that no amount of weight loss was ever going to satisfy me. I could not see that I no longer looked healthy nor was I healthy. I was baffled when people commented on my weight loss in a way that didn't seem positive. I restricted my food unnecessarily to the point that I became secretive about how much I was restricting my food, not wanting to draw attention to myself and increasingly disordered eating habits. I have not mentioned this part of my experience before because, until now, I didn't think you were having that experience. <br /><br />Fortunately, I allowed myself to regain some of my weight, and it has remained in the normal range for 32 years. I've known too many people who have gone from a lifetime of being overweight to becoming drastically underweight, developing the euphoria that comes with anorexia. I didn't think you were one of them, but now I wonder. As Rachel wrote, all I know is what you write here. I hope I am wrong about the possibility of your weight loss developing into an eating disorder. amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09212213177713917828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-79679590207198234652019-10-20T16:11:31.537-07:002019-10-20T16:11:31.537-07:00I have nothing germane to say but like to comment ...I have nothing germane to say but like to comment every now and then so you know I'm over here, waving. Here's my marginally-related story for the day: the late, great Jessye Norman once got stuck in a narrow doorway on her way out of a venue. People tried to help, and one of them said "Miss Norman, try turning sideways." She said, "Honey, I don't HAVE a sideways!"Murr Brewsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03422638986410813520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-15048039010252066262019-10-20T05:25:04.692-07:002019-10-20T05:25:04.692-07:00I'm as happy as I've ever been, I think. I...I'm as happy as I've ever been, I think. I have certainly wandered a long way from where I was when we first met, though! <br /><br />One day we'll get to sit down and have a long talk.Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14523194846272870013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5349472.post-25072015358232060632019-10-20T05:00:15.785-07:002019-10-20T05:00:15.785-07:00I was thinking recently about my kneejerk reaction...I was thinking recently about my kneejerk reaction to the ascetisism I see in these posts. As the world seems to be darkening and getting worse, I've been taking my strongest pleasures from learning to cook more things. I spend evenings reading cooking magazines and dogearing pages for new things I want to try to learn how to make. I feed my friends, and I feed myself, and that's what brings me joy. I worry about you, reading these posts. And then I remind myself that I don't really know anything about how or where you are, from this distance, in these mediated glimpses. rbarenblathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882606147795083729noreply@blogger.com